Jul 28, 2016
Starting a new health, fitness or nutrition journey can be
challenging in and of itself. However, it is fairly common to
experience some pushback from friends and family. The most common
detractors of our goals are those closest to us…usually a spouse or
partner, because it brings out the self consciousness in them. So
how do we overcome this obstacle? Tom Hughes provides tips to
succeed despite these obstacles, and provides a step-by-step guide
to gain their understanding and support.
Tom encourages his clients to assess their support system.
Many times people have a larger support system than they’re aware
of. Common groups that are often overlooked:
- Staff members if you have a gym membership.
- In your circle of friends, there are usually 1-2 people that
exercise with regularity and you can turn to for support and
- Online resources like Facebook Groups. Many gyms, fitness
programs and coaches now have FB groups you can become a part of
for being their member/client, and here you will find other people
with your same interests and goals to turn to for support and
WHEN YOU DON’T HAVE YOUR PARTNER OR SPOUSE’S SUPPORT AT
- Explain to them your health goals and reasons behind it and
what it will take for you to get there. This is your health not
- Hear them out. Have an open mind and let them explain their
concerns over your journey, but don’t allow them to deter you
from your goals.
Push back from family is very common initially, specially when
it comes to food choices at home.
It’s going to take a lot of will power and discipline to eat
your healthy meal vs. your family’s pizza.
TIPS TO STAY ON TRACK WITH YOUR MEALS:
- Keep it basic. Pick healthy and nutritious foods.
- Don’t complicate it by varying your routine daily.
- Meal prep the night before. Get everything ready.
- Take your meals with you, specially if you have a small lunch
time available to you.
- Make enough food for a few days, so you don’t have to prep
HOW TO HANDLE SOCIAL SITUATIONS WITHOUT A SUPPORT SYSTEM:
- Prepare yourself mentally.
- You have to train yourself to just say no. People will give you
a hard time, specially regarding alcoholic drinks if that’s a way
you usually socialize with them.
- If they persist, express to them your goals and that their
actions are not helping you.
WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU GO HOME TO VISIT MOM?
- Understand their perspective. Mom always wants to take care of
us by providing our favorite comfort meals. They mean well.
- Communicate ahead of time. Share your goals and how they will
affect the usual foods you share when you visit.
- Mom always wants us to succeed…she will understand.
“YOU CAN ONLY CONTROL 2 THINGS IN LIFE: ATTITUDE AND
Tom Hughes is a personal trainer who has worked in the fitness
industry for over a decade, helping thousands of people to lead a
healthier lifestyle. He developed his passion for fitness at an
early age, when the school football coach told him he was too small
to make the team. That rejection turned out to be a blessing in
disguise by leading him to the sport of competitive bodybuilding
and the belief that he could help others to achieve their fitness
After spending 4 years in the Marine Corps, Tom decided to make
fitness a full-time career. He began as a personal trainer at
Gold’s gym in Lincoln, Nebraska. He has since held many different
positions within the fitness industry, but his passion has always
been coaching others in the area of fitness and nutrition.
One of the most important life lessons Tom has learned, which he
impresses upon anyone trying to improve their health and wellness,
is that you can only control two things in life: attitude and
effort. If you have a positive attitude and bring your best effort
every single day, you will inevitably be successful.
TOM’S 3 HABITS FOR A HEALTHIER LIFE:
- Practice consistency and remove the word “optional” from your
- Living a balanced lifestyle with fitness and nutrition. Allow
yourself a cheat meal and a night out with the girls.
- Fall in love with the process not just the end result. It’s not
the destination, it’s the journey.
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